Christians often use the phrase "God doesn't give you more than you can handle" to encourage others facing challenging times. While it may be said with good intentions, this statement is neither biblical nor comforting. Instead of helping, it can make someone feel like they're failing if they can't manage their struggles alone.
The truth is life often brings us more than we can handle. This isn't a failure on our part—it's simply part of the human experience. Nowhere in Scripture does God promise that we'll be able to face every challenge through our strength. Instead, we see time and again how God uses these overwhelming moments to draw us closer to Him. It's not about proving how strong we are; it's about realizing how much we need His strength and grace to carry us through.
When we say, "You can handle this," we unintentionally send the message that the person should be able to manage their pain or struggles alone. It's like standing on the shore giving swimming lessons while they're drowning. They don't need advice from a distance; they need someone to throw them a lifeline. They need someone to step into their pain, sit with them, and remind them that they are not alone.
One of the most powerful ways to support someone hurting is through your presence. You don't have to fix their problems or offer solutions. Sometimes, just being there is enough. Hold their hand. Listen to their story without judgment. 
It's important to remember that our role as friends, family, or fellow believers isn't to have all the answers—it's to walk alongside those who are struggling. By being present and compassionate, we reflect the heart of God, who promises to be near the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Our presence can be a tangible reminder of God's hope and strength to all of us, even in the darkest of times.
So, the next time you meet someone facing overwhelming challenges, resist the urge to offer platitudes like "God doesn't give you more than you can handle." Instead, choose to be present. Sit with them in their pain, hold space for their grief, and let your kindness remind them that they don't have to walk through this alone. With God's help, we can face even the heaviest burdens.